DEAR CARLOS DANGER,

Everyone loves mercy and forgiveness because they would want it for themselves.  If your wife has forgiven you (again)...why should we worry?

Sir, it is scary how your compulsion drives you.  It is a force that you have proven powerless against.  And it cost you your job, reputation, and almost your marriage.  Then you went out and while giving People magazine an interview about how hard you were trying...you degraded yourself by launching more continuous, nasty talk/pictures to other women.

What does that tell us about you?

It says you are tottery and unable to stand.  Your life is segmented and you have no fear of the abyss.  You are DANGERous to yourself and to others, Carlos.  How dare you shame your son's name and spit on grace?

What dos that tell us about your wife?

Is Huma humiliated?  She must be, but she seems strangely untwitchy and tearless.  She basically has said "I trust Anthony.  I forgave him (implication: the public should forgive him, too)."  Mr. Weiner, the trouble with that is we don't know how we can trust your wife's judgment.

Yes, she says she loves you.  But a wife who loves her husband wants to see him recover.  By coming alongside you and making possible access to this high profile position, she makes possible what would seem the last thing a compulsion would need.  You need more than five minutes of therapy; you need time to build trust and demonstrate faithfulness and earn your wife's support.  She has said she trusts you but all the while you were dumping on her trust.  If she wants your best, Mr. Weiner...if she is to protect the integrity of her family...she needs to REALLY help you by not enabling you.

Pull aside, Huma.  Work on your marriage.  Your husband is not fit for service.

"But if anyone is deficient in wisdom (knowing what God wants you to do), he should ask God, who gives to all generously and without reprimand, and it will be given to him.  But he must ask in faith without doubting, for the one who doubts is like the wave of the sea, blown and tossed around by the wind. For that person must not suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord, since he is a double-minded individual, unstable in all his ways." James 1:5-7